2016, Uncategorized

The beauty of vulnerability

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“Vulnerability is terrifying. The courage it takes to reveal you heart is one of the most daunting…yet rewarding experiences in life. It will set you free.”

 

I never understood what vulnerability is, I always just assumed being vulnerable meant opening yourself up to get hurt. I thought making yourself vulnerable meant making yourself the bullseye and allowing people to target practice on you. I would be lying if I said that being vulnerable does not still terrify me. There has always been this one person in my life that being vulnerable with was such an easy task but unfortunately being vulnerable with that person caused more trouble than anything else. Imagine opening up yourself to someone only for them to listen say okay and then leave pretending as if it wasn’t a big deal. Exposing yourself to someone is not an easy task but I don’t think being vulnerable is necessarily for anyone else, I think being vulnerable benefits you more than anything else.

 

Being vulnerable means being honest and raw. I don’t think I was always honest and raw with myself. I used to be a very insecure angry girl that used to tell herself that she is pathetic, useless and not worth much. Now was this being honest? No. We are all worth something, we aren’t pathetic and telling yourself these things puts up a barrier between you and yourself and in return you ultimately build a barrier to the entire world. Vulnerability is confidence. I don’t think one can obtain true confidence without being vulnerable. Vulnerability is showing who you really are and valuing yourself. Showing someone my writing is me being vulnerable as writing exposes who I am and is something I truly cherish.

 

The dictionary definition of vulnerable is “Vulnerability is the quality of being easily hurt or attacked.” And I think when we see this definition we run away from anything that makes us vulnerable because who would honestly want to be easily hurt? No one. Being a human being opens you up for being easily attacked so why not be true to yourself? I would rather be attacked for the truth than a lie. I do not want to be a target because I was not true to myself. Brene Brown is one of the most brilliant writers on the topic of vulnerability and she states that “Vulnerability is our most accurate form of courage”

 

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
― Brené Brown

 

When avoiding vulnerability, we need to weigh up what we are giving up and what we have. Not being vulnerable leaves true love, strength and joy behind and we only have cowardice and regret which ends up hurting us anyway. The person I am so willing to be vulnerable with is someone I care deeply about and I don’t want to end up losing them because I put half of myself into the relationship. Vulnerability is giving it all.

“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”

― Brené Brown

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2016, Uncategorized

One of a kind.

“…you’ll search for me inside of everyone you’re with & I won’t be found.” r.h. sin

Comparison is such an ugly thing but is something we do unintentionally. Comparison has to be made as humans are our threshold of who we are. We cannot describe ourselves without referring to another human as a threshold. “I am short” How do you know you are short without comparing yourself with someone who is taller than you? “I am tan” How would you know that without comparing yourself with someone who is pale or dark? Comparison is necessary and important surely but we have taken it too far. We have become radical comparison humans.

I am sure many women will agree with me and say that when they cut their hair men started treating them differently and some men will even go so far as to say that women are more attractive with long hair than short hair and I have two things to say to those men…

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People will always compare you and that is just what humans do so naturally but when you begin comparing yourself to the next person that is when trouble sets in. “Comparison is the thief of joy.” If you feel you need to change yourself into someone you are not just to get someone to love or like you then you are selling yourself short. The way to get ahead in life and be happy is by successfully being yourself because no one on this planet is who you are. He will search for someone better to replace you but that won’t happen because no one is arranged in the manner in which you are arranged and the key to true happiness is to accept and love the wonderful arrangement in which you have been created.

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